10 years | Annapolis Photographer
10 years feels like such a long time, but sometimes just a short while. With 12.5 years being how long Kyle and I have been together, it can often times feel like we have been together all of our lives, and then suddenly I learn something new about him and wonder where have I been all these years… What? You like pecans? Since when? In the past 10 years, That we have been married I have learned so much, not just about my husband…… but myself. I’ve learned lessons that are so valuable to our marriage growing in the coming years, as well as lessons that have helped me to hopefully become a better person.
You know, too often marriage is talked about like its strolls along freshly bloomed tulips and picnics in a field of wildflowers everyday, and while maybe there are some couples who are doing that, but to me that sounds like a set up. Marriage isn’t all about rainbows, and walks in a park holding hands with music playing in the background. I mean, really marriage doesnt include those things at all…. except for in the movies, all the on screen marriages experience those things. Really I believe it’s a place where you have to learn to work together as a team, not always agreeing.. you dont have to agree to be on the same team, but to work together to arrive at the same destination, to achieve on goal. To bring things out in the other person to help them and yourself to become better people!
We have had a few years that were tough, real tough…. we’ve experienced a few line of duty injuries once of which resulted in my husband being non weight bearing or walking for almost 12 weeks. We have struggled with infertility for almost 20 months. We had to short sale our first house, and now we walked a year long process that has led us to my husband being medically retired. Some of those valleys were deep, they were tough, and they felt dark…. but we made it through TOGETHER. We learned that God certainly does give us more then we can handle so that we can realize how much we need each other, and that we must walk together…. like a team, and how much we need GOD!
I’ve had the privileged of watching my husband the past 10 years become an incredible husband, police officer, and father…. oh man the father part… the way he is with our girls …. GIVES.ME.ALL.THE.FEELS. I’ve learned that he would do anything for his family, his girls always come first… but I’ve also learned more recently, that he doesnt have quite as tough a shell as I once thought, really others come first for him. Ive seen how much he cares for people he hardly knows, and it makes me fall in love with him all over again.
These ten years…… .incredible.. YES, ….. crazy.. YES, …… Full of adventure.. YES,……. Hard.. YES, would I trade any of it…… NO. It has made us who we are, and has shown us what we are made of, and what we can accomplish together. To say he is my best friend… would be the total truth. When I am shooting weddings, and I watch the bride and groom dance their first dance…… I miss him, Corny right? But I do! When I am gone for long periods of time, I cannot wait to tell him all the things we did. The team, or partnership, or bond.. whatever lingo you like to call it…. its ours and I love it.
Do we drive each other crazy……. absolutely, Have there ever been days or seasons when we didnt feel so much IN LOVE….. that would also be a yes.. we are human, two humans who grew in two different households and learned things two entirely different ways… thought it would be a good idea to make a go at it, and put all of that together, OF COURSE ITS MESSY… but it’s our messy!
I am so thankful to God that he created this man for me, this man who knows about my flaws, and my shortcomings and loves me… loves me so so deeply. I am so thankful that God took the time to create him to match all things I need.
Soooooooo TEN Years…… THREE houses…… TWO girls…… ONE dog…… TWO bunnies…… FOUR surgeries……SEVEN cars…….ONE career change……ONE retirement…..ONE successful business and SOOOOO MANY adventures…… We’ve had triumphs……. we’ve had losses……. BLESSINGS beyond our wildest dreams…….. good things… and then bad things…… surprises……extensive plannings………last minute changes……….we’ve learned to love……. even when you dont feel like loving…….to serve your spouse when life gives you the chance……. to praise publicly…… to encourage… and to some times be quiet.
Most importantly, we’ve learned that as cliche as it may sound…… We may not have it all together, but together we have it all!
Cheers to 110 more years….
10 years | Annapolis Photographer